Monday, September 11, 2006

Jim's Confusion is a Nightmare

Jim didn't remember that V had a surgery, and got angry with her for not showing up to visit with him. Then he thought V had been in the hospital for 3 days, and got angry with her for not explaining the reason for the extended hospital stay. Jim wants to come home because Saturday night his nurse left him sitting in his feces for a full hour. V has so little energy for dealing with this.

Today, V will stay home. She will try to reach the facility DR by phone. She will try to find out what kind of lab tests have been done and what the results have been. She will try to find out why this GP has not contacted Jim's GI specialists.

V's pain meds are not knocking her out like before. More than likely the stress of Jim's situation. She needs some solid sleep and is not getting it. V's so thankful that Annie is here to help, especially to feed V when V isn't hungry.

Take care all.

~~V

7 comments:

{Steve Rapaport} said...

Those nurses at Jim's place sound like absolute gems. Maybe Annie can go over and bitchslap them a bit.

If I were any closer, I would.

You are my inspiration, V.

Martha and Alley Cat said...

Sounds like it's time for some serious intervention. Is there a Jim relative that can be reeled in to help attend to him, while you take care of you? A child, a sibling, a close friend?

You need to heel and rest and Jim sounds as though he is in need of much help as well.

My heart goes out for your situation....
martha and alley cat

Venita and Jim said...

No relatives. No friends nearby that I would consider close enough that they would take on this responsibility.

DebandGiz said...

My dearest Venita,

Oh God, how my heart goes out to you... Oh gosh...

Would it be possible to temporarily hire a personal aide for Jim? You know, in addition to the Shipley staff? Maybe just for the night shift, if that's when he has the most need for one... Don't know if his insurance will cover it, but even if it doesn't, it will be a legitimate medical tax deduction for this year...

And if you could line up some of his friends to simply visit him during the day, that might help him too...

I'm just trying to figure out a way to help you get your much needed rest, dearest Venita... To help you heal, sweetie...

Have another thought, regarding Jim's situation... Would it be possible for the social worker from the hospital to help you get Jim's doctors on the same page? I know how enervating and frustrating making these kinds of phone calls can be... Waiting on hold... Waiting for return calls... Sigh... Was just wondering if there was some professional who's aware of his case, who could help you with this...

Oh Venita, I've never wished for a magic wand more than right now... Please know I'm hoping and praying things will settle down for Jim, and thus for you... Please know I'm hoping and praying you both are on the mend soon...

Get some rest, okay? I'm so glad Annie is with you! Sometimes we need a dear friend to remind us to eat...

Much love and countless hopeful, healing hugs,
Deb & Giz (And tiny little pawpats, dear Venita...)

PS: If you think the powers-at-be would allow it, I could make some calls for you in the mornings, if that would help... Just let me know, okay?

julie said...

I am so sorry you are having this addred stress of the place Jim is at while you are trying to recover..first ans foremost think of yourself...let Annie help in whatever way she can wioth JIm...do not let this impeded your healing..she is there for you...sending lots of hugs and support!

Alice said...

I am so sorry you are having so much stress on top of your own stuff. I hope you get it straightened out and can just take care of you. Sending lots of luv your way.
Alice

DebandGiz said...

Just checking to see if there was an update, dearest Venita, and to let you know we're thinking about you and Jim, and Annie and the furries, too...

You know how we worry...

We're all hope, hope, hoping that no news is calm, pain-free, perkier appetite, restful news...

Much love and countless hopeful, healing thoughts, prayers, and gentle so as to not hurt kind of hugs,
Deb & Giz (Me too! Me too! I'm thinking really, really, really strong thoughts for you, dear Venita! Can you hear them?)